Turn up the heat (in the bedroom)

Got your attention? ;) Hehee!

One Monday morning, I was walking to my office and a nice smiley lady passed me a thin booklet.

Seeing Evelyn Tan on the cover caught my eye but what really got my attention was this …

The four-letter word “FREE”! I admit, I’m a cheapskate! So anyway, I flipped to the pages on the informative talks about family topics and decided to check out the talks since they were held during lunch hour, conveniently at Samsung Hub which was near my workplace and most definitely cos they were FREE! (Btw, these talks are held annually as part of an event called “Family Festival” organised by TOUCH Community Services.)

And that brings me to the title of my blog post! I attended a talk on “Turn Up the Heat: Experiencing the beauty of sex in marriage”. The speakers are Simon Sim and his wife Bee Chin. Turned out to be pretty tame stuff, no talk on sex positions, etc, etc… but still very insightful, especially since I was listening to the wisdom of a couple married for more than 30 years! Some interesting key points below:

• More important than physical sexual intimacy, a married couple needs to have emotional intimacy – the ability to share heart to heart with each other
• To enjoy sex, you need to slow down your life
• Aim for shared pleasure & satisfaction, i.e. both the man AND woman should enjoy sex
• Enjoy sensuousness! But of course, in the privacy of your own couple space
• Turn your spouse into a lover
• Even when kids arrive, remember that the most important relationship in the family is between the husband and the wife. Your kids are leasehold property but your spouse is freehold!
• He spoke pretty strongly against having the kids sleep in the master bedroom. Why? You can download the booklet PDF for his article on page 10

I must say I really enjoyed the talk! :) Simon was extremely humorous and shared a lot of interesting stories and anecdotes!

Find out more about Simon here at his personal blog. He’s the former GM of TOUCH Community Services and has written a book called “The Family CEO: Building a Happy and Successful Family”.